The Right to Love… Only Wealthy & Good Looks Need Apply!
Before Independence, all the superior establishments in India had a board hanging outside which read, ‘Dogs & Indians Not Allowed!’… A simple symbol to display the tyranny and autocratic ways of the British rule.
Today, I post this to make all those who are not wealthy and without the looks, realize it now and realize it today before it’s too late- that you have no right to fall in love! Not at all, you there the girl with lotsa pimples, you the dude with only a kancil, you the gal with godzilla-hips and the dude with round round teddy belly… YOU ALL ARE NOT ALLOWED TO BE IN LOVE!!!
We live in the age where love (as in wholehearted, fully-devoted, emotion-filled love ya) can be compromised for cholesterol! Nehhh, you dun have to give it your all, there is no risk of losing the fat-guy anyway, who’s gonna steal him away? Another hot babe? Neh, and if he does go away, good-riddance right???
Reminds me what Tom Cruise once said, ‘with money, you could buy the greatest of love!’
If the girl’s hot, the guy would take care of her so much, where she’s going? who she’s meeting? is she cheating behind his back? Does she really feel the love for him? Why doesn’t she bother about how he feel? So much worries and if the gal’s ugly, it’s ok!!! She wouldn’t cheat coz who would want her anyway, right???
Hopeless romantics are truly hopeless for believing that love as they envisioned and give does exist, it doesn’t people… till you aren’t rich &/or be hunky, you don’t deserve whole-hearted love, consider yourself lucky if you’re not treated like trash…
Gals, if you don’t have the 36-24-36 figure &/or looks that makes dudes drool… you don’t deserve devotion and caring love. Who cares if you can cook and really build a family… That’s immaterial!!!
You know phrases like ‘I’d give my life for you’, ‘I’ll walk a thousand miles for you’ etc etc is actually a whole load of bull laced in movies by directors to cater and build dreams of the hopeless romantic who is sitting watching it while sniffing away!
Wake up numb-nuts!!! Or you’d pay a hefty price all your life, you either buck-up or get out!!! You will have constant heart-ache, being treated like a piece of dispensable trash, or to really nail it on your thick skull, the only difference between you and a toilet paper is… you actually breath!!! Voila!!!
Before I go, allow me to present a quote from a dear friend of mine:
‘It’s easy to get a man, but hard to find a husband… it’s easy to get a woman, but hard to find a wife!!!’
Dang!!! Wanted to write so much as I am in the long long cold lonely night… But what the hell, it’s my ranting and who’s gonna care anyway, so at 5.38AM, Nexus Khan wishes you good night or is it good morning… oh whatever… 
The Fat Guy’s hitting the bed
well, before i leave, i wanna add something a friend of mine told me once, “Guys are materialistic in life, they always wanna do something big with their lives, but not all girls are materialistic, BUT all girls look for security in a guy….”
Khan Saab,
There is no wrong or right in what you said, perhaps what drove you to this blog entry were those feeling burried deep beneath the surface of mankind to notice, but this is my take on it.
I am no 36 , 24, 36 model ,I am not drop dead gorgeous, cute maybe, but not drop dead gorgeous
I’ve been through more failed relationships that anyone probably ever has, to the point I was beginning to think, I wasn’t cut out to be in a relationship.
I was drowning in a pool of depression, thinking every guy that came my way WAS the right guy for me.
I used to wonder why people didnt practice what they preeched, they made mention that looks weren’t important but at the end of the day, I realised it was because of how I looked that they left me, no matter how intelligent I was, no matter how I could manage to hold a conversation and speak from politics to soccer, I still didnt make the cut , simply because I wasn’t Miss Malaysia India.
All that changed when I met Manu.
He showed me that , he wanted me for Me, it didnt bother him if I wasnt ever pretty, it didnt bother him that I was slightly short, none of it mattered. To him what was important was that I value who I was a person. He showed me how to value myself, how to stand tall and accept the fact that ‘look im not miss malaysia india, i am me, i have these qualities and if you dont appreciate them, then u dont deserve my love’
I guess what I’m trying to say here is, no matter the rest of the world thinks of you, its only important what you think about yourself.
Today , every morning I look at myself in the mirror and say ‘you’re the best, and it doesnt matter if others dont think that way’
Your entry reminded me , of the old me … the one i burried a long long time ago
most girls wants security… and most guys wants freedom… the more security she wants from the guy, the more he wants freedom… and the more he wants freedom, the more she wants to be secured… see the problem… that’s why there are such books telling us the fact that men are from mars and women are from venus… even the marriage vows are actually keeping each other in bondage that frustrates so much couples in today’s world which makes love virtually impossible… as the two generally wants two diverse things… it’s only when we release the need to control external factors so that we can feel good… only then the law will bring the right mate to each other… =)
beautifully written.. sometimes even if you are nice looking hunky and you are going out with I would not really nice looking girl but her heart is pure and solid and Dang!!! she leaves you..what happen to the sincerity?? Nexus what you have wrote is what a fact of life is all about.. girls and guys out there even of you are going out with anyone just appreciate what you have and make the best out of it why seek outside attention where you dont even know is it for long..
cheers guys and girls
hmmmm… definitely insightful ariff…
farhan, terence and deepa, thank you for the wonderful comments and great feedback to my entry… i’m able to gather some pieces of information in batches and be able to conclude that it’s security that is most paramount… thank you once again and it shall be a guidance path that would be going to the end of horizon…
Actually, it all depends on individual. Those been through a lot in life will hv a better understanding. If you’re 19, yes, good looks is a top priority. As we grow we meet more people along the way, that criteria might change. It will change only if you are smart enough. When I was 16, I had a crush on this really good looking guy, not bcos I was 16 and naive, even now when I think of him, he’s still on top of my list (as in good looks). One fine day I had a chance to meet up with him for dinner (not a date) he came wt someone else, MY GOD, I learnt my
lesson immediatly, at 16. Need not say much, but I won’t even think of having to sit or breathe in the same room wt him! Period! Good looks are just a ‘bonus’. As long as you’re sincere, u hv a good heart, that will b beyond than just looks. If it’s not meant to be, it’s not. If you know you have done your best n it doesn’t work, it’s not your loss, it’s theirs. Sometimes, go back to basics, don’t give reasons to pacify ourselves. Have to think about our parents, sister, uncle,
children…..Do you love that person? If you do, work on it, make it happen, think for yourself. If you don’t, end it, get out of it! Move on….
those who want looks r shallow,those who need security r wise..fact is the day u learn to love urself,ppl will start loving u…i have no idea how its done,but im sure theres a possible way..if looks really did matter,id be in a happy-full-filling relationship..i have ppl telling me im pretty,then wheres my mr.right?..bottomline is-grass always greener on the other side..u decide hw u wanna be loved n treated n u start by treating ur own self right..n remember if things dont go ur way,it doesnt mean ur unlucky,it just means that wasnt ur right n better things r on the way..